Are You Taking the Steps to Secure Success?

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There is a simple question that I ask all my clients, “Are you taking the steps to secure success?” It seems like a fairly simple question to answer, but it a vital question to ask yourself in all endeavors that engage.

At work, are you merely working for a benefits package or are you working to guarantee the success of your work establishment so it can be generous back to you? Especially in the work place, the ability to create success in every one of your actions is very important and will make you quite visible — winner always are. Actions that might appear idle such as breaks, napping, going for walks, personal phone calls are all fine if you can answer the question, “Is this helping me to secure success?” If the answer is “Yes!” and, it is followed by success, no one will question you. Not contributing at a brainstorming session is fine if it secures success, but if it does not, you must choose a behavior that advances success. Not speaking up is a common problem at the work site or not knowing what to say. Securing success will give the tools necessary for uncomfortable situation such as conflict resolutions or confrontations. “If I do not speak up, am helping to secure success?” The answer seems obvious.

In the workplace, do you speak success? The very words you use will create a work environment vocabulary that will support success . As words flow easier from a place of success, your language will act as the motivating message behind what you are thinking and have a contagiously impact on the thoughts and energy of others.

At the end of the day, are you bring home success? Are you taking the same steps to insure success in your personal life? The skills you learned at work should also be the tools that you bring into your home, relationships and personal choices new balance outlet store online. The words and actions in your home need to be success oriented as well. “Am I ensuring success with my loved ones?” It will also help you to decide if you need to appreciate, exercise, go to the doctors or have one less dessert. “Is my decision not to exercise a guarantee of success?”

So much of our lives are dictated by policy, rules and laws. Fortunately, there is no policing success and the choices we make in term of securing success. With success, you can never have too much. In fact, if you need someone to police you, you are probably not in the right place or mindset to succeed. Securing success should be the easy choice that causes your life to exponentially grow. The goal of life is to become secure with success and not with a job.

Success is a vocabulary.
Success is how you think.
Success is how you treat others.
Success is how you take care of yourself.
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Are you ready?
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Exercise: Choose five activities during the day and ask yourself, “Am I securing success by doing this?”

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Leadership in Baghdad

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blast-wall-baghdad1.jpg One of the keys to leadership is the ability to turn obstacles into advantage. Finding within yourself a different view that allows you to transform pain or injury into fuel for growth is truly a gift.

In Baghdad, miles of blast walls surround the city. They are placed to minimize damage of car bombers and attackers. To the people of Baghdad, it is a painful reminder of growing tensions.

A group of 40 artists lead by Baruir al-Sheik are turning injury into healing and leadership. They are using the miles of blast wall as canvases for murals cheap nike air max one. These murals are reminders of strength, their past, and hope for the future. “We want people to feel their environment, to remember their history,” says al-Sheik, 32. “Hopefully it will remind some people that there is good news in this country, not all bad.”

I think it is interesting the most visible change in Baghdad is being initiated by artists.

We Need Heroes

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When Tina Turner sang “We don’t need another hero,” she had it all wrong. We do need heroes, but not to rescue us. We need heroes to remind us that we have not even touched the surface of our potential.

A great example is Kellie Lim. At the age of 8, she contracted bacterial meningitis and due to complications had her right forearm, three fingertips of her left hand and both of her legs below the knees amputated new balance 373. Kellie Lim just graduated from UCLA medical school and will begin the arduous residency program at UCLA Medical Center.

I highly recommend that you read the article about this woman and all she has overcome as a pediatrician. This Asian sister is a hero we all have to find in ourselves.

What Car are you?

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mercedes.jpg kia.jpg In my body language and posture program, I ask people to compare themselves to automobiles to understand expectation. Everyone immediately compares themselves to a $500,000 sports car. The problem is that not everyone realizes the expectation and image a vehicle like that carries.

An employer or a client pays you according to the package you portray and can maintain – it is the same when you buy a car.

When you buy a $10,000 car, there is not much expectation. It will get you from point A to point B. By the time you invest $186,000 in machine such as Mercedes-Benz SL, the expectation is that the car will behave exceedingly well . Its minimum standard is to perform optimally under all conditions, have impeccable detail inside and out, and will appreciate in value over time. It becomes more than just a vehicle – it becomes an investment.
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In other words, by the time you are paid a six figure income, you will stand with the posture of a leader, coordinate the way you dress with detail, perform easily under stress, actualize ideas into the future, communicate excellences, navigate gracefully through obstacles, fuel yourself with premium foods, exercise and maintenance yourself at peak performance, and increase the value of the company.

Look at the following list and see roughly where your salary falls. Look carefully at the wording of the slogan and see if it represents you. If you are reaching or exceeding the expectation, try to push yourself into the next level by asking yourself what you need to do to improve.
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Car Price Slogan
Kia $10k Make every mile count
Hyundai $20k Drive your way
Chrysler $30k Inspiration comes standard
BMW $65k The Ultimate Driving Machine
Mercedes-Benz $85k Unlike any other

Family Trips in the Office

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1966_chevrolet_impala_side.jpg When I was a kid, “family trips” in my parent’s 1968 metallic green Chevrolet Impala station wagon were always a mixture of family dynamics and heat. My sister who was 9 1/2 years older would lament about lost time with her boyfriends; my brother, would recount his adventures with the “older” boys detail by detail; mom would happily listen to all conversations; and dad would yell with the accuracy of sniper’s bullet if our voices became too loud or if we moved around too much. I sat in the far cabin usually nauseated and sweating because the car ran very hot …did I mention it had no air-conditioning.

For entertainment, we had the factory AM radio that could barely pull in a staticky, muffled signal or we could sing…as long as it was not too loud and there weren’t any big movements. Window opening was strictly verboten. One thing was always for sure, there was a hierarchy and my father (or whoever was behind the wheel) was in charge.

Little did I know, these “family trips” were life-defining. The conversations were a means of checking into each other’s live. The singing was a way of re-tuning the family language. Adventures we experienced amalgamated us as a group. And finally, the music we all agreed to listen to harmonized us new balance trainers sale. At the end of these “family” trips, we were much closer and communicated much better…even though hotter.

The work place is like the “family trip.” It is loaded with opportunities to create understanding, initialize language, harmonize relationship, expand communication, imprint hierarchy, focus efforts and train behaviors Cheap Air Max 90 GS. Also like the family trip, the work place is loaded with distractions. A good leader will take advantage of these times together to attune all the team members, to enforce the goals for the future and define themselves as the driving force behind the wheel of success…and not just a driver.

Running out of Excuses

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isaac-felicano-amputee-firefighter.jpg oscar-pistorius.jpg Isaac Feliciano of Paterson, N.J. dreamed of being a firefighter – though gangrene claimed part of his left leg when he was 6. With a prosthesis, he played basketball and football in high school, and last year, he passed his local fire department’s daunting physical exam. Officials said he couldn’t serve, so he challenged the ruling. Now, New Jersey’s state Merit Board has found him capable to serve, and he soon will start his training.”

Wired Magazine’s March issue (*click on the link to watch him run, its amazing) covered a story about Oscar Pistorius:

“Born in Johannesburg, South Africa, in 1986, with … two toes on each of his tiny foot… [and]…each leg missing a fibula.”

His parents made the painful decision to amputate his lower legs. Now he runs the 200 meters in 21.34 seconds just missing the qualifying time for the 2008 Olympics. “Pritorius is forcing the sports world to rethink what it means to be a disabled athlete.”

So what is holding you back from achieving your dreams? What is the reason you can not get the promotion you want or lose that last twenty pounds?

Money and opportunity are useful tools, but not guarantees Womens New Balance 574. On the other hand, barriers will point out your conviction, but they will not hold back the courage embodied in each of us. I have worked with people who have spent years telling me they want to lose weight, but, when it came down to doing the work, it was someone’s or something’s fault. Likewise, I have had clients decide they were going to loose weight and accomplish it in less than twelve weeks.

Shattering limiting belief and finding pathways through obstacles are the qualities of a leader. Isn’t it time to get off your non-crippled ass and do something big? Hurry though, the clock is ticking.

Jake & Mozart

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jakesart.JPG I have a friend, Jake, who is a gifted graphic designer and artist. I call him “Mozart” when he is in his artistic zone. The reason I call him Mozart is because he can produce art as effortlessly, cleanly and with as little revision as Mozart produced music. The work he creates is core connected with his abdomen, as well as to his Southern roots. His art comes to him easily, so he is constantly reinventing his artwork, finding new subjects, styles and themes to draw out his deeper gifts. I bring up Jake because he is my reminder to reinvent something I do well so I never take it for granted. This is my challenge to you, pick a common activity such as walking and reinvent it. Walk on uneven surfaces and keep your balance. Stroll along the beach and try to make all your strides the same length. Navigate through a safe area with you eyes close. Try making your steps as light as possible. Practice recovering from a stumble until it is not traumatic new balance buy online. Each of these little reinventions of a common activity will create mastery and also safety. So over a lifetime, the gifts you have been given will evolve for the better. This is how life should naturally progress—where you improve on anything you did as a kid. Master what comes easy to you, so you don’t lose that valuable skill. Jake’s Art

Brave Women at Waimea

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Remember the last time you were truly brave? The last time you went against logic and consequence…and won? The last time you put yourself in harms way knowing you would be safe because your instincts of bravery were stronger? Do you remember just by being brave how you became a leader?

When I was at Waimea Bay on the North Shore in Hawaii, I watched seven women bravely face a challenge. The challenge was a single rock that stood about 35 feet above the water. This remnant volcanic outcropping was both unforgiving, slippery, and the initial mount at the base had to be timed with the waves. Waimea is notorious for extremely large waves and strong currents. Even though this was the end of big wave season, these women were very careful at the base.
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It was clear there was not an exact plan except the end goal of getting to the top. But with each progressing step, an unmistakable movement with a concise design emerged. At the start, the first woman was the initiator, but with each step, all seven women undoubtedly creating a path to the top that all could follow.
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I am sure thousands have done this before, but in this moment these seven women were the lead reminders for all watching on the beach. Reminding each one of us, it is safe to face our fears.
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I often talk about being brave, because life is full of choices. Most choices are easy, seductive and convenient. Being brave is daring to go outside your comfort zone, lines of safety and boundaries of security to find a better place within ourselves.

These girls embodied bravery and leadership and like the Hiwatari (see previous blog entry) they reminded me of my own hidden strength. They reminded me that our genetics could survive a thrilling endeavor like their ascent and dive from the rocks. Mostly, I realized we are as vulnerable to the environment as I thought.
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Whether you are involved in a business transaction, involved in a sports league or interacting with family members; the challenge is leadership: Finding a path upward based on courage, instinct, insight and knowing, even if it counters prevailing belief systems. In doing so, you become a leader of an evolutionary movement that others can easily follow.

Hiwatari (Fire Walking)

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hiwatari In Japan there is an annual event called Hiwatari (Fire walking). It happens at Mount Takao in Hachioji to mark the coming of the spring. It is an event that I wish to attend because it is a reminder of the potential of the human body and spirit.
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Each person, old and young, has the same genetic makeup as all humans. They have hands, feet, nerves, bodies and skin just like us. They feel pain, they experience fear and they have the potential to burn. Against existing thought (and instinct), they do not experience injury from walking over the flaming embers.

There is no trick to Hiwatari. It is like any other goal you attempt to achieve: it takes practice, mindset, consistent training and belief. Witnessing an event such as Hiwatari, reminds us: the limits of the human body are unknown and anything you perceive, see, aim to accomplish, wish or dare to do, should be able to be done with the proper focus.
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In the world around us, we see things that show us how weak we are. We just look around and see examples of disease, accidents and injuries. We are told we will get weaker as we age. People tell us to “be careful” and “don’t do that.” So we stay in between the lines and follow those thoughts and visions.
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My hope is when you see another fellow human do something extraordinary, you know you can do the same or better. You have the same tools and genetics. Plus, you are one step ahead because now you have more insight that the task is doable. Furthermore, there is an infinite source of strength, wisdom and insight in each of us to accomplish anything.
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What is your Hiwatari you should focus on in order to remind you of your greatness?

Leadership Starts from the Head Down

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There is a saying, intent is 2/3 the law. I have never been totally sure what that has meant, but it is a great segue into what I want to talk about. In communication, body language is 55% of communication. This is to say body language is a large component of communication, personal message and leadership.
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Body language is how we communicate to people and the environment. It is our message about ourselves and the rule of conduct with us. It is also the means of emoting personal messages and the statements about ourselves. For example, “I am serious,” “I am the leader,” “I am happy” or “I am healthy.” Likewise, it also works the opposite way.
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billgates.jpg Bill Gates is an icon of wealth, innovation, and more recently, education in developing countries. He led Microsoft to become a power house in the computer industry and has a net worth of $53 billion. By looking at this picture of him, I have to ask the question, what happened?

touche-turtle.jpgGoogle “Bill Gates” and you will find hundreds of photos of Bill in various points of his life and career. Most of the time he looks youthful and rebellious, but in this photo he is just sporting a serious case of anterior head carriage. He looks more like Touché Turtle than a Barron of Industry.
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Anterior carriage is a sign of sympathetic overload and exhaustion. This once youthful innovator is looking tired. What do you think he will look like in a year from now if nothing changes? How often do you find yourself in the same tired posture/body language and what do you think it will look like in a year to five years from now.

If you want to make a different impression with your body language, make sure your heart leads you through life and not your head. Having the heart raised and the head squarely over the body is the strongest sign of leadership. But there seems to be an exception. If you own billions, you can have all the anterior head carriage you want. Until then, keep your heart up, head over you body and eyes on the horizon. If you happen to be a billionaire, “Touché and away!”